😳 Cʜᴀɴɢᴇ ᴄᴀɴ ʙᴇ sᴄᴀʀʏ.
Totally normal. In fact, of the 𝟓 𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐥𝐲 𝐅𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬, this is the 𝑴𝑶𝑺𝑻 biological.
For over a millennium, your ancestors lived & worked in familiar areas for survival. 🧑🏼🌾
Until just a few generations ago, our families would grow up and work in the same place for their entire life.
But now it just isn’t necessary.
🧔 Unfortunately, many men lean on this fear to the point where it keeps you stuck.
You fall into patterns of consistency and reject the notion of venturing out of your comfort zone.
𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 Fear of Change, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭:
👎🏼 Stay in that toxic relationship.
👎🏼 Continue to keep your head down and drag ass to that job that leaves you so unfulfilled.
👎🏼 Completely limit your happiness and excitement for life.
For too many years, I worked as a server. In the beginning, it was just a way to bring in some cash while I got other businesses off the ground. It was only supposed to last about 6 months.
Months turned into years. And all the while, I would simply make excuses as to why the side business wasn’t working. 🙅🏼♂️
👉🏼 It’s just not the right time.
👉🏼 Business isn’t growing as quickly as I would like.
👉🏼 I need to save up a little more money.
The fact of the matter was, I had a huge Fear of Change. Not knowing how the business would work. Being a server was something I was good at that didn’t take a lot of effort and the money was pretty good most of the time.
One of my first relationships was insanely toxic.
A narcissist. A cheater. And blatantly went out of the way to make me feel bad about myself. But, I stayed. For more than 2 years, I stayed.
Fear of Change. I had become so accustomed to the routine and the toxic environment that I really didn’t know any other way to live. 🤷🏼♂️
Years after I finally got out of that relationship, I questioned whether or not I had made the right decision.
I’ve spoken to many men who have fallen into the trap of being comfortable.
They know they deserve more, but just can’t overcome the Fear of Change long enough to take the necessary steps and create the happiness they desire in life.
It breaks my heart. 💔
But once I was able to eliminate the Fear of Change, so many areas of my life improved.
𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺:
💪🏼 Take risks in business & investments.
💪🏼 Know what I want from relationships and change the people in my life who do not empower me.
💪🏼 Strengthen my mental & physical well-being.
Here’s the thing. Change is inevitable. It’s going to happen whether you want it to or not. Whether you are ready for it or not.
But simply “overcoming” the fear will NOT help you in the long run. You’ve got to completely eliminate it from your life.
It’s no longer serving you.
Because this is more of an innate, biological fear that has been genetically passed down, it is going to be a bit more difficult to extinguish. 🧯
Since, you ultimately understand where it comes from, you basically need to change your DNA.
Sounds difficult, but not impossible.
And the benefit is so worth the effort.
What has the Fear of Change held you back from recently? Comment Below.
Joshua D. Abel