My name is Joshua Abel, a personal development coach helping guys bio-hack their happiness and self confidence to create more success in life and in business.
For more than a decade, I have invested countless hours and tens of thousands of dollars into personal development. And the results have been extraordinary. It’s truly like having a life unlike anything I could have ever imagined.
But the road hasn’t been easy. For years, I would wander in and outs of the grips of alcoholism but that wasn’t even the worst of it. There was a much deeper issue that I suffered with long before I ever picked up the bottle. An issue that affected every aspect of my life.
Since I was very young, I allowed fear to hold me back in every way imaginable. And I always just felt “stuck.”
Stuck in my career. Stuck in my relationships. Stuck in my finances. Health. Spirituality. I was simply stuck.
For as long as I can remember, I have been an entrepreneur. When I was in elementary school, I learned that I could buy penny candy at the local Piggly Wiggly and turn a profit by selling it at a higher price to the other kids in my class. At age 12, with the help of my dad, I started my own lawn care business then after college I began my own digital marketing agency for which I devoted more than a decade.
But whether I was building my own business or working for someone else, I could never reach the level of success I wanted. One way or another I always ended up getting in my own way and self-sabotaging until I was once again back where I had started.
Like so many, the fear of failure was so prevelent in my life that it caused me to procrastinate in everything I wanted to do. Whether I had played with the idea of getting out of debt or working on my health. I continuously put it off day after day, month after month, year after year.
I was so consumed with the fear that I believed as long as I didn’t even try. I only made excuses and as long as I had a pocket full of those, I could never fail.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but looking back I now realize that I had an absolute fear of money, which is why I struggled and lived paycheck to paycheck for a large portion of my life.
As a child, I was taught that to have any sort of financial success in life I would have to step on the backs of others, lie, cheat and steal to get to the top. All of which was against my morals. It was much more noble to work hard and stay poor.
Little did I know this fear would affect so much more than my bank account. It caused a strain on my relationships especially with those who made more than I did. The stress of mounting bills, a diminishing credit score and a negative bank account caused so much stress and anxiety that I began having digestive issues and would get a tightening in my chest worry that I might have a stroke or heart attack.
One of the biggest fears holding me back from achieving any form of success in life was the fear of change. That biological fear of the unknown and the desperate, unwavering need to feel safe and secure.
Would I succeed or would I fail in business, relationships, improved mental and physical health? I did not know. And because I was unsure of the outcome, I always remained stagnant. The fear was crippling.
From my earliest memory, I remember being more of a loner. To avoid getting hurt or rejected, I often isolated and kept to myself.
As I grew, this fear manifested in every aspect of my life. I found myself stifling my thoughts and feelings but even more that, my goals so I would feel accepted by those around me. I sacrificed myself and remained “stuck.”
After two years of deep, intensive work I finally cracked the code. It wasn’t able overcoming the fears once in a while to achieve some minimal success. It was about completely eliminating these fears from my life so that I could finally begin becoming the man I was meant to become.
I quickly became:
Guys, many of us were brought up to believe that it is our duty as men to be strong all of the time, that we must push our feelings and fears down to keep moving forward. Otherwise, we will be seen as weak.
The truth is, if you are not currently taking steps to be the man you envisioned yourself to be then the fear, whether you believe it is there or not, is winning.
It is not enough to simply overcome the fear. That takes too much time and energy.
If you are not currently completely fulfilled with the direction your life is heading. If you are not experiencing absolute and utter happiness in your life at this moment, then you must ELIMINATE the fears from your life once and for all.
Here’s the thing. You can do this. You not only deserve to be happy and fulfilled but it is your obligation as a man.
You were meant to create a life of confidence and happiness.
And I believe I can help you achieve the level of success you deserve.